In his book Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, James Nestor describes the 5.5s breath cycle as optimal. This pattern of “5.5-second inhales followed by 5.5-second exhales, which works out almost exactly to 5.5 breaths a minute,” synchronizes with the...
I don’t use the term regulation very much anymore when I discuss emotions or nervous systems support. Like many people, initially, I found the idea of nervous system regulation to be very helpful; it provided me with agency around my trauma symptoms. I discovered that...
A companion post to Self-Compassion Morsels: 31-day drip course ”If you’ve learned to rely on your inner critic for survival, self-compassion can feel nearly impossible. It may feel so unfamiliar that it doesn’t make sense, or it can even feel like a threat to...
After ten years as a trauma therapist, I’ve found myself becoming quite fatigued with the literature on trauma; after a while, it’s all became repetitive and restrictive. What I have found out there feels incomplete, like it unwittingly limits us survivors in our...
11/11/21 marked ten years for me in private practice. That’s a decade, wow! After ten years, I left my last career, and I feel like I’m just getting started with this one.I’m genuinely grateful for all the humans that have trusted me and continue to...
“I am done with mindfulness” A friend of mind recently announced during one of our phone conversations. Immediately I was intrigued. What had mindfulness done to her? Why did she feel such a strong desire to push it away from her life? “I am sick of trying to be with...
