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thoughts on trauma, movement, and society
Impacts of Developmental Trauma
Self-worth. Self-love. Self-compassion. Self-care. Why is it so hard? Why is it so hard to feel worthy? Why is it so hard to feel deserving of...
Optimal Breathing Pattern
In his book Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, James Nestor describes the 5.5s breath cycle as optimal. This pattern of "5.5-second inhales...
Resourcing: Beyond Nervous System Regulation
I don’t use the term regulation very much anymore when I discuss emotions or nervous systems support. Like many people, initially, I found the idea...
When Self-Compassion Feels Impossible
A companion post to Self-Compassion Morsels: 31-day drip course''If you’ve learned to rely on your inner critic for survival, self-compassion can...
Healing Trauma & the Mystic’s Journey
After ten years as a trauma therapist, I’ve found myself becoming quite fatigued with the literature on trauma; after a while, it’s all became...
Reflections on my Values
11/11/21 marked ten years for me in private practice. That's a decade, wow! After ten years, I left my last career, and I feel like I'm just getting...
Complex Trauma and Re-traumatization in Spiritual Communities
Many folks that experience trauma during their developmental years turn towards spiritual practices and communities as part of their healing journey...
The What, Why and How of Trauma Therapy
This is for you if you want to enter therapy for your past traumas but feel unsure about the process. Three stages of trauma care Many of my clients...
Felt Sense Vocabulary
Finding Words Through the healing process I support clients in turning towards their bodies to process, to feel, to gain clarity, to release, and...
I am the 10th child of 2 – Personal Lessons from Grief
Legacy of Grief You could say that grief and I have an intimate relationship. In the 7 years between my sisters birth and mine my parents...
Nonviolent Communication
Nonviolent Communication Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is one of the most useful skills I have ever learned. The creator, Marshall...
Communication – Attachment Styles
In the three previous parts of this series we explored embodied listening, gaining clarity, and how to re-establish our sense of...
Communication – Soothe before Logic
"Inviting our thoughts and feelings into awareness allows us to learn from them rather than be driven by them." ~ Daniel Siegel In part one we...
Communication – Clarity
Clear Communication In part one we explored the importance of listening. This aspect of communicating involves a little more personal work to...
Communication – Listening
"Knowledge Speak but Wisdom Listens" ~ Jimi Hemdrix In an interview Mother Theresa was asked “when you pray, what you are saying?” Her response was...