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Impacts of Developmental Trauma
Self-worth. Self-love. Self-compassion. Self-care. Why is it so hard? Why is it so hard to feel worthy? Why is it so hard to feel deserving of love? Why is it so hard to stop critical thoughts? These are topics that come up frequently with clients, and it’s a common...
Optimal Breathing Pattern
In his book Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, James Nestor describes the 5.5s breath cycle as optimal. This pattern of "5.5-second inhales followed by 5.5-second exhales, which works out almost exactly to 5.5 breaths a minute," synchronizes with the rhythms of...
Resourcing: Beyond Regulation
I don’t use the term regulation very much anymore when I discuss emotions or nervous systems support. Like many people, initially, I found the idea of nervous system regulation to be very helpful; it provided me with agency around my trauma symptoms. I discovered that...
When Self-Compassion Feels Impossible
A companion post to Self-Compassion Morsels: 31-day drip course''If you’ve learned to rely on your inner critic for survival, self-compassion can feel nearly impossible. It may feel so unfamiliar that it doesn’t make sense, or it can even feel like a threat to the...
Healing Trauma & the Mystic’s Journey
After ten years as a trauma therapist, I’ve found myself becoming quite fatigued with the literature on trauma; after a while, it’s all became repetitive and restrictive. What I have found out there feels incomplete, like it unwittingly limits us survivors in our...
Reflections on my Values
11/11/21 marked ten years for me in private practice. That's a decade, wow! After ten years, I left my last career, and I feel like I'm just getting started with this one.I'm genuinely grateful for all the humans that have trusted me and continue to trust me in being...
Complex Trauma and Re-traumatization in Spiritual Communities
Many folks that experience trauma during their developmental years turn towards spiritual practices and communities as part of their healing journey and this can be paramount for healing. Spiritual practices can broaden our perspective, help us learn to re-inhabit our...